What to Look For
If a child is being sexually abused, he or she is more likely to indicate something is wrong by his or her behavior as opposed to being able to say so. However, sexual abuse is frequently discovered when a child confides in a trusted adult or friend. Children often are unable to tell anyone about sexual abuse because of fear, shame, confusion or a lack of knowledge and words to use.
There are indicators that family, friends and professionals can watch for that may be exhibited by sexually abused children. Some of these indicators may occur when there is no sexual abuse. The possibility of sexual abuse or other emotional problems increases when more indicators are present, and an alert, concerned adult needs to explore and respond to the child's needs.
An important reminder: Be aware of your feelings as parents. You may experience a wide range of feelings including guilt, anger, shock, disgust, sadness, disbelief, etc. Don't hide your feelings or ignore them, but accept them with other adults who can be of support to you. Don't allow your emotional turmoil to adversely affect your child. Since the whole family may be affected, it may be helpful for everyone to seek counseling.
The earlier children learn the facts about sexual assault the better their chances of being protected from a traumatic experience.